Severly depressed at university? I started university in Edinburgh (on the outskirts) last Friday. My first lecture is in just over 3 hours, and I am writing this at 05:45. Reason being I cant sleep and severely thinking about jumping out the window as had enough.
I came here to get a very good degree. I love helping people so doing a healthcare course (for anyone wanting to challenge what I just said, I have known even the best doctors to be suicidal). I aim to come out with a 2:1 or a 1:1 Honours by the end, however, the university is making me want out.
I suppose much has happened over the past few days; I got "dumped" by a guy I had been casually seeing for the past two years who I liked, on Sunday, and am stressing about my lectures.
The thing that no one gets though and seems to take the piss out of is the excessive noise. So it’s Freshers Week and I understood it was going to be like that, but not to the levels I have been experiencing. When I walked past Block A last night heading to the gym, I had abuse shouted at me from silly little boys out the window. It wasnt even jokingly, they were making revolting comments and cat calling.
All night I couldnt sleep. I was awoken by my supposingly considerate flatmates at 2am when they came in and we otherwise made a pact with one another to be considerate in regards to noise at times like that (eg when up in the morning, I always shut the doors quietly for them). One of them decided to even rearrange her furniture loudly! Problem is her bed is directly against my wall, so every time she moves it, mine vibrates. She must have done it a dozen or so times, as in the end I banged on the wall for her to stop.
At 04:30, I had to contact security who were very sympathetic to my call, as there were students who were literally legless congregating outside my block shouting, screaming and generally being loud. I think security have moved them on, but it’s not the point.
Like I said, came here to do well, not go and party and get legless each night. I have posted a few statuses on my Facebook page saying just how pissed off I am, but no one is taking me seriously. On one, I mentioned getting woken up when I had to be up early to attend a mature students thing, and my cousins think it’s hilarious and make comments like "Are you at uni or in an old peoples home lol", and "Thought you was supposed to be a rebel". Even my friends have started doing it.
Wondering now because I am not being taken seriously if I should even put after "Hate being a student and want to jump out the top window" to make them shut up.
For those going on about student life, I dont expect this to this degree. Even tempted to take this to the principal. Sick of the abuse being shouted down to me every time I walk past that block, and severely worried I am going to have a breakdown.
Any advice appreciated. In particular, how can I get my fellow cousins and "mates" to take me seriously?
bluesweatshirtMarch 5th, 2010 at 6:30 pm
Been there, doing that. My period in the dorm seemed interminable, especially at first. Definitely wasn’t used to the drunken shoutings, pointless interruptions, and awkward roommate tension in a place that is supposed to be your home. Of course, everyone is expected to blend into that whole Animal House thing. I think university years are sometimes just rigorous tests to see who makes it out alive. Or graduated. Anyway, don’t let it all wear you down because even though it seems like there is nobody who has the same views you do, there are. Finding people who are relaxed and not into the party/wasted stupor scene will help you get some of your issues off your chest. Also, even though you’re technically at school, try to give yourself some slack. Hard work has to be tempered by letting yourself do something you enjoy on a regular basis, whether it’s a hobby or hanging out with people or just sitting and thinking. If your roommates are seriously uncooperative, see if it’s possible to move. Also, is your campus has student counseling services, go. They are really helpful, even more so because they are specialized to the particular point in life you’re at. This is the best advice I can offer and best wishes in sticking it out. References :
Severly depressed at university?
I started university in Edinburgh (on the outskirts) last Friday. My first lecture is in just over 3 hours, and I am writing this at 05:45. Reason being I cant sleep and severely thinking about jumping out the window as had enough.
I came here to get a very good degree. I love helping people so doing a healthcare course (for anyone wanting to challenge what I just said, I have known even the best doctors to be suicidal). I aim to come out with a 2:1 or a 1:1 Honours by the end, however, the university is making me want out.
I suppose much has happened over the past few days; I got "dumped" by a guy I had been casually seeing for the past two years who I liked, on Sunday, and am stressing about my lectures.
The thing that no one gets though and seems to take the piss out of is the excessive noise. So it’s Freshers Week and I understood it was going to be like that, but not to the levels I have been experiencing. When I walked past Block A last night heading to the gym, I had abuse shouted at me from silly little boys out the window. It wasnt even jokingly, they were making revolting comments and cat calling.
All night I couldnt sleep. I was awoken by my supposingly considerate flatmates at 2am when they came in and we otherwise made a pact with one another to be considerate in regards to noise at times like that (eg when up in the morning, I always shut the doors quietly for them). One of them decided to even rearrange her furniture loudly! Problem is her bed is directly against my wall, so every time she moves it, mine vibrates. She must have done it a dozen or so times, as in the end I banged on the wall for her to stop.
At 04:30, I had to contact security who were very sympathetic to my call, as there were students who were literally legless congregating outside my block shouting, screaming and generally being loud. I think security have moved them on, but it’s not the point.
Like I said, came here to do well, not go and party and get legless each night. I have posted a few statuses on my Facebook page saying just how pissed off I am, but no one is taking me seriously. On one, I mentioned getting woken up when I had to be up early to attend a mature students thing, and my cousins think it’s hilarious and make comments like "Are you at uni or in an old peoples home lol", and "Thought you was supposed to be a rebel". Even my friends have started doing it.
Wondering now because I am not being taken seriously if I should even put after "Hate being a student and want to jump out the top window" to make them shut up.
For those going on about student life, I dont expect this to this degree. Even tempted to take this to the principal. Sick of the abuse being shouted down to me every time I walk past that block, and severely worried I am going to have a breakdown.
Any advice appreciated. In particular, how can I get my fellow cousins and "mates" to take me seriously?
Been there, doing that. My period in the dorm seemed interminable, especially at first. Definitely wasn’t used to the drunken shoutings, pointless interruptions, and awkward roommate tension in a place that is supposed to be your home. Of course, everyone is expected to blend into that whole Animal House thing. I think university years are sometimes just rigorous tests to see who makes it out alive. Or graduated. Anyway, don’t let it all wear you down because even though it seems like there is nobody who has the same views you do, there are. Finding people who are relaxed and not into the party/wasted stupor scene will help you get some of your issues off your chest. Also, even though you’re technically at school, try to give yourself some slack. Hard work has to be tempered by letting yourself do something you enjoy on a regular basis, whether it’s a hobby or hanging out with people or just sitting and thinking. If your roommates are seriously uncooperative, see if it’s possible to move. Also, is your campus has student counseling services, go. They are really helpful, even more so because they are specialized to the particular point in life you’re at. This is the best advice I can offer and best wishes in sticking it out.
References :